Shaping Up Kids Attitudes

I have been savoring this moment and blog post for a couple of weeks. We started a new incentive in the house. It all began with a little tete a' tete with hubs. . .aka problem-solver- extraordinaire. I was fed up and whining to him while my kids were in AWANA and we were having a "date" over coffee and one slice of pie. (I ate the whole piece without offering him a bite-stress eating, right?.)

"The kids have been disrespectful, whiny and I am fed up." I wonder who they got that from? Never mind that. . ."what are we going to do about it??!!"

He carefully analyzed the situation as he sometimes does with my emotional outburst. He said, "Well, I think we have given them too many privileges that they do not know how to act. They wake up to TV each day, they do not help out around the house enough and they know if they ask long enough they will get their way. We just have to step back from some of those things that they think they deserve and give them some direction." Then the lightbulb was not only lit up above his head, it got brighter. "How about a "Good Job Jar?"

Hmmm. . .now you have my attention. He said, "what if we give them each a container and everytime they whine or are disrespectful in some way, let's tell them to take out money. When they do something without asking, are kind, helpful or even positive then lets give them three of whatever we determine is the right amount." Hmmm. . .I think it's going to work.

As soon as they got in the car from AWANA that night we started talking with them and then when we got home we layed it all out. This is how the Good Job Jar works.

  • Give them a jar or let them design one.
  • Have a jar set up for you that has extra pennies in it.
  • Give them 10 pennies (which really equal dimes, but we did not have enough dimes to work with) to start with.
  • Explain that if they have any kind of misbehavior you ask them to take a penny out. Don't do it for them. . .they need to feel the loss.
  • If they have any exceptionally great behavior they get to put 3 pennies in.
  • At the end of the week they can count their pennies and I will give them that amount in dimes or dollars if it equals that.
These are the important rules that they must remember. If they compare pennies they have to take one out. They may not ask with words for a penny for good behavior.

We have really seen an improvement in the last couple of weeks that we have been doing this. We rewarded them a lot on the front end so that they would get the idea. I would much rather spend my time encouraging behaviors, then have to harp on the all day about being more obedient. Obviously, we have only been doing this for a couple of weeks and I believe you have to change your system up when they have mastered one. But for now, this works for me immensely. Last week, I got to give them $3.00 each for their hard work, respectful attitudes and amazing manners. Ahhh. . .the satisfaction that we all have.

While our usual hostess with the mostest is out of the country, Melanie from Don't Try this at Home is generously hostessing this round of Works for Me Wednesday. Check out more grand ideas there.

Have a great day and Happy Shaping Up Your Kids Attitudes!

Happy Birthday, Lynn!

Lynn gets a Happy Birthday post because she checks my site regularly and is a dear friend. Love you girl and hope you have a fabulous day today! She is the second one on the left in the white top. Happy Birthday cute gal!

Menu Plan Monday

It's that time again. Time to plan my menu! I am super excited this week and you are about to find out why.

Monday - Small group. . .hmmm something easy. How about chili, fritos and cheese! :)

I am going to make Cream Cheese Squares and coffee for my Small Group. Cream cheese really unites people! :)

Tuesday - Sesame Chicken

Wednesday -Chicken and Mushrooms
4 ckn breasts
1 can cream of mushroom
1 can cream of chicken
uncooked bacon
pkg. mushrooms

Wrap bacon around chicken (1-2 pieces) and lay on bottom of pan. Slice mushrooms and put them on chicken. Mix cans of soup and spread them on chicken. Bake for 1 hour at 350 degrees. Serve with Rice.

Thursday - Heart Shaped Pancakes with Reese's Peanut Butter Chips. Oh MY!!! If you like Peanut Butter, these will speak to your soul. Serving with bacon and strawberries.

One of my friends has a lake house and has generously allowed us to use it for the whole weekend! Hubs has someone lined up to preach for him. Wow what a weekend! Don't know what the kids are going to be eating. . .mom, don't forget to feed my kids. They are not too picky, but Gretel says that she is allergic to hot dogs and milk. :)

Friday - Steak/Twice Baked Potatoes/Salad and Spanish Flan for dessert

Saturday - Stir Fry-we love to chop vegetables and cook together-one of our newlywed things that we used to do. . .a couple that cooks together stays together. . . :) Just made that one up. Can you tell?

Sunday - lunch out/dinner -probably hot doggin it! Sorry Gretel.

I hope ya'll have a wonderful Valentine's Day. If you are looking for some fun Valentine linkage, check out My Sunday's Best-Valentine Edition.

My Sunday Best-Raisin' Kids

Kids. . . wonderful kids. They are such a joy . . .I almost typed job there and that would have been correct as well. When I think of my kids and how amazing they are I also get the mixed up feeling that we are not doing something right. There is still this edge to them that I want trimmed off. I am sure that the good Lord is saying that about me too as I type. With the responsibility of kids, I always have this added weight on me. Yes, it shows around my waistline, but it shows up in my prayer life as well. We are always striving (and will until the day we leave this crazy earth) to be parents that are worthy of the calling.

Here are some links that we as parents are always checking back in with to make sure that we are on course and I found some fun ones this week on my regular blogging rants.

1. How do I teach my kids about money?

2. How do I raise healthy kids both emotionally and spiritually? Great tips here for teenagers!

3. This is a regular newsletter that I get. They offer families a way to discuss films as well as culture with your kids.

4. What is a great book that offers creative disciplining tactics for parents? The fun part is that it is written by Blair off of The Facts of Life. Now she is a cool gal!

5. What is a great way to teach your kids manners?